4 Steps to Setting Energetic and Emotional Boundaries That Help You Honor Your Sacred Self

Boundary issues.

I think at some point or another we have all been diagnosed with this cumbersome label. From giving too much to others and feeling resentful to needing too much from others and losing our sense of self, to shutting others out altogether, boundary setting is a field in which we are all constantly experiencing trial, error, and opportunities for growth. But here’s the thing: I’ve never found this term helpful.

Personally, the word “boundaries” conjures up the image of a fortress: a line that may not be crossed, a fence that keeps things out. If you google “healthy boundaries,” you’ll find the most common reason people shy away from creating them is a fear of alienating themselves from the ones they love.

Speaking as a formerly codependent person who lived with this fear on the daily, I can tell you that the idea of setting boundaries only served to send my separation anxiety into a tailspin. More than that, it’s a term that just never resonated. Perhaps because of how inflexible it feels. It wasn’t until I began my studies in Spiritual Psychology that I found the concept I’d been looking for, the perfect descriptor for the process of owning my truth and advocating for my needs. That term is called Self-Honoring, and for me, it…